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Winter's last gasp....

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That stinks. I was in college during 9/11 and well remember how it impacted our nation.

But, having to stay with your parents is no big deal. You do what you have to.

Personally, I'd rather live under a bridge, lol. But that's because I don't have a fantastic relationship with my folks (divorced and both remarried and I just got so tired of being stuck in the middle of their drama).
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@Sweetpea3829wrote:
That stinks. I was in college during 9/11 and well remember how it impacted our nation.

But, having to stay with your parents is no big deal. You do what you have to.

Personally, I'd rather live under a bridge, lol. But that's because I don't have a fantastic relationship with my folks (divorced and both remarried and I just got so tired of being stuck in the middle of their drama).

I get along great with my mother and stepfather.  They immediately offered to help.  I stayed with them for about two years and then moved into the house I'm in now, which they actually own.  Yep, my folks are my landlords.  LOL. 

 

I didn't get along with my father and stepmother at the time, and they lived out in Las Vegas, too.  It got better later on, though.   Incidentally, they're gone now, with my father dying just before Christmas of last year and my stepmother, coincidentally, just last night.  I hadn't seen either one in about 25 years, though I occasionally talked to them on the phone.  


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"my father dying just before Christmas of last year and my stepmother, coincidentally, just last night."

 

My condolences, Gabe. 

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Awww Gabe, I'm sorry to hear of your loss. :-(

Losing a parent/step parent is never easy, even if the relationship isn't that great.

I get along much better with both sets of parents, now that we live several hours away. But they can still be aggravating. Especially when they come and stay with us.

I guess that's kind of the nature of the beast though, lol.
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@maratsade

@Sweetpea3829

 

Thanks, guys.  My stepmother I wasn't really close to, so that one isn't bothering me that much.  That's not to sound cold or anything, as I do feel bad for my stepsisters.  My father's passing bothered me, but I knew it was coming, so it was a little easier to take when it happened than it would have been had I not expected it.  

 

The circle of life, such as it is.  Smiley Sad 


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I wonder if it's easier when you know it's coming, or if it is better when it's sudden.  I can never decide.  And no, you don't sound cold.  If you're not close to a person, their death may affect you differently than if you are close. 

 

 

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I think it really depends on the person and your relationship. I have to be honest, I find myself pretty emotionally detached when it comes to stuff like this. But, I am adopted and was at a somewhat later age, so I am not as emotionally vested in my parents (sounds terrible, but it's true).

Now if it were my husband or one of my kids, I'd be a hot mess. Expected or otherwise.

When my SIL passed last fall, it was more or less expected bit difficult because she was only 52 (and has a surviving identical twin).

My MIL passed a few weeks ago and it was different. Fewer tears. And it struck me how she was lying there deceased, and everybody was just carrying on with their lives around her, but almost like she was an afterthought.

It wasn't in a bad way. It was just striking to me. You live, and then you die. And everyone else carries on.

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Lol, now that we've waxed philosophical on Gabe's winter post...